3 Ways Business Can Be a Spiritual Pursuit

Silhouette of business woman with wheel bag looking into hotel window . rear view

As a high school and college student I worked summers in the order department for my dad’s paper company located in lower Manhattan.   I’d commute with Dad each weekday down the exhaust filled “West Side Highway” from Northern New Jersey and arrive to do what my dad termed “zappa.” – Work I worked across in a desk across from red-headed and red-lipsticked Francis and chain-smoking Brian from Brookly… and from when 9:00 came, the 3rd floor back room was buzzing with 2nd hand smoke, hustling, deal-making and Francis’s foul mouth. Primarily, I was the guy who filed their orders and ran the errands they didn’t want. Business as a “spiritual pursuit” was the farthest thing from what I experienced.  “Business is a b——- ,” Fran told me…. and the way she went about it, pretty … Continue reading

7 Ways to Express Authentic Personal Brand

Free Yourself Chains Breaking Free Links Unbound

I realize this stuff is much harder for women!  I tell Mindy all the time, “It’s “hard being” a girl!”  (actually I use another word for “harder that I won’t use here : )   She doesn’t fight me on that opinion. Why?  For whatever reason, women get judged more on how they look, what they wear, how old they look…. However, I’ve had to grow up to some key facts.  Like it or not, people do form opinions on who we are, whether we’re credible, what we’re about, whether they can relate to us, if they can trust us, so why not pay attention? I used to argue, “Jesus didn’t worry about His personal branding.” Well…. Worry no.  But was he intentional in doing whatever He could to get His message across to the … Continue reading

5 Doable Ways Your Coaching Can Develop New Leaders


For years, I served as a pastor of a church in the Boston area. Not rocket science here, but in my position, I continually realized that the health and potential of our church depended upon our ability to raise up new and passionate leaders. Other leaders who saw themselves as mission critical to what WE were doing together. Not “Jeff’s church”  OUR CHURCH. Problem: Very little of what I did day-to-day, the main services I led and little in my own formal training equipped me to do the very thing I knew was most important. Raise up and develop new, passionate leaders. Instead, the pace of “work” had me constantly conscious that I had to constantly “recruit” people to “do things.”   There were 100+ roles that needed to be done and tasks that needed to … Continue reading

Defeat Depression Before Breakfast

Brave handsome man in glory pose

Each morning I’d watch my type I diabetes-inflicted grad school roommate, Larry, perform his rituals before breakfast.  Piercing his finger to take a blood level – measuring his glucose levels – injecting himself with a needle full of insulin. I thought to myself, “What a pain! I could never do that!” But, Larry soon taught me that his ritual no longer seemed burdensome.  Why?  Because he shared,   A day without insulin makes made him feel extremely crappy. After just a few days without insulin, basically his body will have crystallized glucose in the blood-stream, and over time, they’ll set in your extremities, causing black-toes/fingers, basically they’d start rotting away. A few more days and he could go into a diabetic coma, and likely die. With that as understanding, rituals are actually really good!  And … Continue reading

This Current Crisis.. Danger or Opportunity?

hand for help on the mountain

For the word “crisis,’ the Chinese use a combination of two characters.  The two characters are those which designate “danger” and “opportunity.” Interesting that we here in the West define crisis primarily in the danger zone.   “a time of intense difficulty, trouble, or danger.” (Google) “the turning point for better or worse in an acute disease or fever” (Mirriam Webster) Clearly, either way, our current crisis feels like a turning point.  We can’t just ignore it and hope it goes away.   The question for us: Is it  just danger?  (Bad, No good, very bad day bad!) Or is it an opportunity? (Open door..ready for entry? The future is here!) Recently, a wise friend, who’s also a shrewd entrepreneur, shared that he desires to intentionally surround himself with a diverse group of people who … Continue reading

Is Following Passion Foolhardy? Answering Mike Rowe

Follow your heart

Dirty Jobs Famed Mike Rowe recently gave a “now famous” TED talk speech in which he said that “following your passion” was the worst advice he ever received.   Then in written answer to a questioner who challenged Mike’s point of view, Rowe said, Like all bad advice, “Follow Your Passion” is routinely dispensed as though it’s wisdom were both incontrovertible and equally applicable to all. It’s not. Just because you’re passionate about something doesn’t mean you won’t suck at it. And just because you’re determined to improve doesn’t mean that you will. Does that mean you shouldn’t pursue a thing you’re passionate about?” Of course not. The question is, for how long, and to what end? When it comes to earning a living and being a productive member of society – I don’t think people … Continue reading

Finding Our “All In” Tribe


I watch in awe as my 2-year-old black lab Barney bounding into the pond to retrieve a tattered tennis ball.   Freezing, brackish green water. A sudden dip takes him from shallow to deep, plunging him into the cold water. Yet, never an instant does Barney hesitate.  Full commitment.  Never a second thought of “Should I?” time after time, after time, after time. Though somewhat fatigued of throwing that slimy ball over and over…. I don’t hesitate either.  Why?  Barney’s all in!  Why shouldn’t I be all in as well? Trust me, the ball’s disgusting and I don’t love throwing tennis balls that much…. BUT BARNEY’S ALL IN! The parallels stuck plain as day. WE ALL NEED A TRIBE OF ALL IN TYPES.  Don’t you? 1. A tribe all starts with one “all in” person. Just … Continue reading

10 Active Ways to Move On When Disappointed


You don’t have to be an entrepreneur for very long before being disappointed.   Let’s face it. Entrepreneurs see what can be.. though it’s not yet.  So we get disappointed. Well… forget entrepreneur.  You don’t have to be a person long.  Disappointment comes our way.   Or we walk its way! And when it comes, we feel alone, angry, out of sort, disgusted and disgruntled, maybe with life itself. You don’t have to be a parent long.  A spouse long.  An organizational leader long.  A worker in any office… in any school… in any church… in any hospital. Lost a client. Didn’t get funded. Passed over for a promotion.  Star employee leaves us.  They talk about us behind our backs.  Investment tanks.  Friend walks away.  Far away. And the hardest thing can be when people act… well, … Continue reading

No Success Without This Ingredient

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Leave just one ingredient out in a desire for success and everything else pretty much turns out like my 6th grade cooking project when I forgot the baking powder…. yuk. Something’s not right! Yet, for some reason,  for many of us our “success school curriculum” somehow forgot to share that we must prioritize this one ingredient if we want real and lasting success… Not sure why. Health.  check Love.  check Home. check Looks. check Recognition. check Money. check Talent. check Who of us hasn’t met people who have those and who are still…. empty… overwhelmed…. sad….. discouraged…. addicted…..frustrated… angry???  Maybe you know someone like that from the inside.  All really good attainments…. but… Not able to enjoy…  be satisfied… celebrate… relax…  be free..  Not able to sleep soundly, give freely, breathe deeply… breathe very deeply. … Continue reading

4 Steps to Change Your Story This Month


“I’m lazy “I’m addicted to carbs.” “I’m depressed.” “I’m out of shape.” “I never win.” “I’m not good with relationships.” “I struggle financially.” “I never sleep through the night.” “I’m not good with follow-through.” “I’m not a morning person.” The truth about these stories: They’re all things I’ve personally told myself… and, sadly, believed. The other truth about these stories: They’re not who I really am and they’re not what I really do. Two other things that have been true about these statements: 1. Believing them affected how I acted. 2. I’m not alone in believing such life-taking and destiny-stealing  “stories.” Way too many others buy into these stories of  “Who they really are” and “What they’re really like.”  The effects of such in heads and actions:  well, pretty destructive,  dead-end to life, defusing to … Continue reading