Can You Give Yourself Permission to Succeed?

Jeff Caliguire 03/27/15

It seems so humble, so spiritual even to say, "I don't need to win." "It's good to play small and let others win." "Or play safe."

There really are plenty of us in the world who really somehow believe we need permission to succeed... to win at something bigger.... to play for bigger stakes.

I've heard from enough others (including me) that have repeated words like this inside:

"It's better to let others win"

"I'm not the winning type!"

"I will offend them if I win."

"Winning is unspiritual."

"They'll be threatened by me if I succeed."

"I won't be happy if I win."

Yep! Crazy stuff seeing it written out, right? Yet, believe me, there are plenty of us out there who have rehearsed these lines.

But, doesn't the Bible say we should be happy and not succeed? Does it?

Well, you can read very clearly in the book of I Corinthians:

Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but only one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may win. Everyone who competes in the games exercises self-control in all things. They then do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable.… (1 Corinthians 9:24-25)

Permission to Succeed Granted!

However, here are a few things that go along with this greatest success:

1. Succeed in a Vision that's Bigger than You

That's right. An "imperishable wreath" involves winning for things that include you BUT are bigger than you.

What's imperishable?

  • Other people are imperishable. Serving them and helping them lasts forever.
  • Making money for your family and to serve generous purposes lasts.
  • Creating community (including companies) of real relationship lasts.

What BiGGER vision of good so captivates you that you'd do whatever it took to win?

2. Acknowledge the" I'm not a winner voice" is about fear, not faith.

The voice of faith is a voice of potential, possibility, abundance and breakthrough.

"I can't." "I'll get rejected" "Who am I?" Those are all attacks on our identity! Where did we even accept those as true?? If it was a parent or sibling - they were wrong!

And the answer to those is "I can." "I will" "I am a child of God!"

3. Surround Yourself With an Environment of Winners!

It's really OK to choose friends and colleagues who bring you up! And do not allow you to settle for playing small, being small and reaching small!

It really does take intentionality to surround yourself with others who see the best in you and urge you to a higher level.

Find those people! Set up coffee with those people! Join groups with those people. Be grateful for those people!


When you win, we all win! Find your bigger vision. Rid yourself of that "lose" voice. Surround yourself with a community of others big winners!

Permission to Succeed? Granted. It seems so humble, so spiritual even to say, "I don't need to win." "It's good to play small and let others win." "Or play safe."

Are you ready to discover AND engage your purpose?

About Jeff

Jeff Caliguire's personal mission is to unlock you to discover and engage your callings and dreams. He is an author, coach and retreat leader who dreams of the better world when millions of people unleash their full potential by doing what they were born to do!

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